An innocent image, an unintended remark, a facial reflex, an expressive posture, a phone call to check on you, an insidious book suggestion, a branded piece of garment, a coffee break invitation, a complaint about nothing palpable, a personal remark and feedback, a lie.

Again and again, people are unable to realise that behaviours can be predicted, observed and even avoided by others.

When their interactions are slowed to a more analytical time it is possible to define not only the exterior manifestations but also the interior motivation behind the intended actions.

This is a rooted system of stimulation and reaction and is usually used to describe a worsening scenario. In my case, and following also in the worst case scenario argument, it is also a way for me to construct my own mechanism of time slowering observation on people.

I am fortunately not being constantly triggered and I think it has to do with how others are relating my triggers to them and their triggers to me. I find myself analysing how much I trigger others in positive ways.

I can be the culprit of the usual politeness, empathy, solidarity, generosity, hard work, motivation, intensity, competence, endurance and performance. This triggers positively and constructively and blossoms into something better for a start. Then as the relations evolve, people either stay and participate or they flee by assuming their inability to cope with this ecosystem of care and unusual intimacy.

So, triggers are not your personality and yet their potential to conforme you in inconspicuous ways is very relevant; triggers are used by all the parts of a relationship and yet not all of them are aware and in control of their impact; triggers are thrusters and not anchors; triggers can be positive and manipulative in a consistent and constructive way.

I trigger a lot.